“Nobody likes you when you’re 23 and you still act like you’re in freshmen year..” I know, that’s from a very famous Blink-182 song, but seriously this line just seems so accurate to me right now because I am 23 and believe me I don’t act 23.
But is it really that bad? I’ve asked myself several times: Geeze, will I turn into a serious adult as soon as I hit 30 or 40? Nah, I doubt it. Why shouldn’t I be liking silly memes and funny dog pictures when I’m older? And if I do, do I really have to act my age?
Uhm, aren’t you a little too old for still liking _put whatever doesn’t seem age-appropriate in here_?
Asked while using or collecting things like “kids” toys or playing video games.
Yeah, sure I bet you’ll hate it when you’re older!
Told by people after getting a tattoo at a younger age e.g. between 18 to 22. Because you will automatically hate everything you loved when you were younger, right?
So basically owning stuffed animals, making silly faces, playing video games, watching cartoons, eating tons of candy and fast food and “wasting” money on unnecessary things (anything of the things above) or something silly like still fangirling over your favourite teenage band is considered immature.
But you know what? I’ve thought about it and in my opinion the following things are what I actually consider childish or immature behaviour:
– Not being able to argue without insulting the other person
– Not admitting that you’re wrong or made a mistake
– Being lazy and hope that someone else (e.g. your mom) does it for you
– Not willing to change or adapt to new situations
– Not standing up for yourself or others but let yourself getting peer-pressured into stupid things
– Not wanting to be serious in serious situations (e.g. when talking about finances, jobs and health subjects or other serious conversations)
What’s mature then?
For me, being mature is someone who makes their own decisions, who doesn’t have to rely on others because they’re independent; They can live on their own, work or study or even travel alone. It’s scary and not necessary age related, so you will find mature people of the age of 16 and others only with 25, it really depends on how you grew up.
Also something I find is a really grown up thing say to is: “I can’t do it sorry but I will try again!”
So basically knowing your limits but not immediately giving up. Being mature means to speak about your problems, be it about yourself or at work/with family or friends.
Someone is spreading rumors about you? 13-year old me would probably start talking shit about this person too, 17-year-old me would unfriend/block this person and “swears to god will punch this person in the face next time I see them” and 23-year old me (just happened recently tbh) first will get a bit irritated about the fact that I’m still in the rumors game
oh heeey whatup and then laugh about it.
I will confront this person about it eventually but since I already know how fake and obviously stupid they are I can’t be bothered.
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My final answer: I guess everyone has their inner child in them and that’s okay it would actually be rather sad if the “child in you” died because you turned into an obnoxious unhappy adult.
So you try to act super mature before you’re even 20? Geeze, life is way too serious the older you get, so please enjoy your child and teenhood as much as possible!
To the people out there who have nothing better to do than to make fun of genuine people who don’t harm anyone and just seem to like things that apparently aren’t age-appropriate:
Why don’t you get a life and finally grow up? Don’t let your bitterness or insecurities out on people who are just enjoying themselves. It’s not cool nor mature of you.
And with this being said I’ll probably go make silly faces on Snapchat, watch some Anime and play some Pokémon on my Gameboy.
Cool greetings B-)